everyone has said and done problematic things in their lifetime. that’s a result of the society we live in, not necessarily a reflection of their character.
what is a reflection of their character is how they react to being informed of the negativity within their behavior and statements, and whether or not they choose to change their behavior.
its like we never happened. if what we had was real, how could you possibly be fine?
The wounds you gave me at the tender age of sixteen are still present to this day. Anything or anyone that reminds me of the horrible things you did to me causes me to have a mental breakdown on the spot. And it is okay - i have learned to live with that. But having my significant other pay for the mistakes that YOU made is not okay. Im damaged and its all because of you. I want to love again. Its hard to open up when my heart has been shattered into a million pieces in the past.